The legal term for a divorce is “dissolution” because the “bonds of matrimony” are dissolved. The process of dissolving the “bonds of matrimony” can cause many personal, family, and financial hardships. Divorce can involve many complex issues, such as child custody, child support, maintenance (alimony), and the division of marital property. These issues can have a profound impact on your life going forward. If you are considering divorce, you undoubtedly have many questions about the process, your rights, and the impact on your family and your finances. Below, we answer some of the most common questions asked by people going through a divorce. If you have any questions about your divorce, contact us today in St. Louis at 314-878-2537, in Southwest Missouri at 417-623-0900, or toll free at 800-371-8220. You can also email us anytime.
Does dissolution of marriage have to be hard fought and bitter?
Dissolution of marriage is almost always difficult, particularly if there are children involved. It is almost inevitable that there will be disagreements. It takes two people to reach an agreement; however, anything that you can do to keep the relationship calm and rational will probably be to your benefit. A provocation by one spouse is usually met with retaliation and the atmosphere can degenerate. When parties seek revenge for past injustice, presumed or real, the battle can be long, expensive and bitter. Even though the statute allows the judge to consider the conduct of the parties in dividing the property, the judge will probably place little weight on the misconduct unless it involves clear physical or emotion abuse. Remember you are paying your attorney by the hour and it is usually a bad idea to escalate the battle if it can be avoided. In summary, try to remain rational and calm and avoid unnecessarily angering your spouse. Remember that you once loved this person and if you have children, you will need to work together in the future to raise these children. Be assertive about your rights, but do not be petty and do not use your children as pawns. We understand that you may have a spouse that is being difficult, and we will help you focus on being calm so that the best possible outcome can be attained.